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I’m totally honored to be interviewed by Tara Swiger as a member of her starship. Hop on over the post to read a bit more about me and my business!
I remember stumbling upon the website and watching the video, but my brain just sort of shut off with the explanation, as simple as it might be… I thought, “Oif, I don’t want to learn another system… I’m overwhelmed already!”
This is a feeling ever since I became a mother… and it doesn’t seem like it’s going away anytime soon. I yearn to be organized and on top of things – from business to household to personal goals. And it seems there are plenty of busy moms who are kicking butt out there. But I seem to struggle with every step and I always find myself behind and feeling inadequate.
But the point is that I need to change something, so that I feel better about it all. Perhaps it’s about awareness and perspective. I currently use a mix of digital and paper planning… and basically too many post-it notes. It’s a mess! I also find myself thinking of “planning” as another chore. Although I ventured into creating my own planner pages and templates, I’m realizing it’s not really about the tools, it’s the system that’s not working.
I like the fundamental idea of getting everything into one notebook, plus it’s supposed to be super flexible with lots of room to grow and change. Seems like a framework taken from useful tidbits of other systems in the past like Dash/Plus, indexing, freeform journaling, etc all rolled into one.
There’s an official Bullet Journal website and the official video below gives you the basic lowdown.
Not to mention another million youtube flip-throughs and tip videos. I really enjoyed reading Boho Berry’s posts and tips, especially the point about migrating tasks and how the “planning” and writing of things forces reflection. Usually I have so many lists, they just keep growing and growing. That’s not really a sustainable way to keep a list… there’s a limit where just looking at it makes my brain want to explode. And unfortunately that’s what makes me turn away…
I decided to stop thinking too much (get past analysis paralysis) and just do it – consequently joining in on Boho Berry’s #bbActionChallenge.
I know some critics say it’s a waste of time to be numbering pages, indexing and migrating by hand on paper – in this oh, so, digital age. But I also thought, paper planners are the rage and besides being trendy it might be because it actually works. There’s something to be said about writing on paper with your hands. It sinks in differently for our brains. Not to mention the time it does take up, forces one to slow down and really focus and reflect on the items being written… going back to my point earlier. Again, time will tell.
So I’m thinking it’s best to start super SUPER simple. I don’t want to set myself up for failure by diving in too deep and having a million logs and things I can’t keep track of, even if it’s just one notebook. So I have to think of the bare essentials to start with.
The sad thing is that I dived in so quickly that my notebook was backwards. Yes. I opened it upside down, backwards and started my index page, future log and daily. DOH! I was oh so tempted to rip it all apart and go whimper about being seriously out of sorts.
You know how you can have the best of intentions but when things go awry, it really makes you want to curse and throw in the towel? That’s was me.
But I took some deep breaths and thought, okay, this is a test. It’s not about being fancy or pretty… it’s about making it work. So who cares if it’s upside down. Just go with it! So albeit my cringing and heartache for how silly and boring it all looks… I’m keeping with it.
I need to remember this is not the time or place for creative stuff… at least not right now, for me. I need to get organized first… fun can come later. There’s so much inspiration out there and super pretty bullet journalers… but I need to keep the focus.
Right now everything is pretty much empty for me, but I did start compiling all my notes into it, so I can throw away post-its and random scraps of papers with lists. Sort of braindump style… hopefully I can deal when I’m finished…
I really enjoyed A Tiny Ray of Sunshine’s posts about bullet journaling, especially about the bullet journal addiction stages. It make me chuckle out loud! I would like to start with the simplify stage though and skip all the drama. Hah!
I’ve been thinking about how planning is such a huge topic and usually such a personal struggle for people. We want to plan and have things planned out… perhaps because it’s about being in control of things in this crazy world?
The only thing I’ve learned with life experience is that things rarely go as planned. In fact, I used to be a project manager and although managing teams is a bit different in the workplace, it was still an illusion to believe one could really be a master puppeteer.
It seems that we can be organized and aware of the situation and possible situations, but there needs to be room for flexibility, change and plan b, c, d, e… etc! So although I have high hopes for my bullet journal adventure, I also need to remind myself that it can morph and change over time. So I really need to go with the flow, more than anything. That will probably help me the most to feel better about everything.
Oh please, wish me luck and I would appreciate any tips or suggestions from veteran BUJO folks out there – anything regarding bullet journaling.
Continuing with Pattern Observer’s Book Club was really easy since I already was reading the book chosen for February. I’m hoping to develop a regular habit of reading in following the book club (albeit passively). I’m not always participating in the discussions, but I do want to document my reading – part accountability and part sharing of bits that really hit me and I want to remember.
For February we read Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert (affiliate link to Amazon.com) and it’s a really easy to read and quick to finish book. I love her stories intertwined with the subject, even though like last month, creative junkies might not find anything new in the discussion of creativity. The concepts and topics are probably forever written about in books, blogs and papers. However, I really like the style of Gilbert’s writing is like her talking to you about this fascinating topic and having a marathon, overnight discussion.
That’s my kind of thing for sure! She’s also opening up to everyone – not just for people who want to go into a creative profession. I like her simple and straightforward tone, very easy to relate to, so I enjoyed reading the book, cover to cover.
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Here are my highlights while reading the book:
He told them that they must live their most creative lives as a means of fighting back against the ruthless furnace of this world. Most of all, though, he asked his students to be brave. Without bravery, he instructed, they would never be able to realize the vaulting scope of their own capacities.
Do you have the courage to bring forth the treasures that are hidden within you?
The universe buries strange jewels deep within us all, and then stands back to see if we can find them. The hunt to uncover those jewels – that’s creative living.
I’m talking about living a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than by fear.
Because in the end, it’s all about the work
Because this is the other side of the contract wth creativity: If inspiration is allowed to unexpectedly enter you, it is also allowed to unexpectedly exit you.
…the artistic version of multiple discovery – a term used in the scientific community whenever two or more scientists in different parts of the world come up with the same idea at the same time…
Most of my writing life consists of nothing more than unglamorous, disciplined labor.
The idea of an external genius helps to keep the artist’s ego in check, distancing him somewhat from the burden of taking either full credit or full blame for the outcome of his work.
To even call somebody “a creative person” is almost laughably redundant; creativity is the hallmark of our species.
…creative entitlement simply means believing that you are allowed to be here, and that – merely be being here – you are allowed to have a voice and a vision of your own.
No matter how great your teachers may be, and no matter how esteemed your academy’s reputation, eventually you will have to do the work by yourself.
In conclusion, then, art is absolutely meaningless. It is, however, also deeply meaningful.
Holding yourself together through all the phases of creation is where the real work lies.
You must learn how to become a deeply disciplined half-ass.
…mere completion is a rather honorable achievement in its own right.
I admit it’s a sad situation. I’m lying in bed, nursing my baby and surfing the Web. This has been a bad habit of mine with both my kids, because I end up consuming a lot but creating nothing, subsequently feeling pretty negative as a result. Enter the gremlins.
It usually boils down to a scarcity mindset because I see all the amazing things people are creating and I’m jealous and sad that I’m not part of the crowd who seem to have so much success. Outcast feelings bring back bad memories of the social pressures from high school years – ugh, yuck! Have I still not outgrown that rubbish, yet? I beat myself up for not finding the time to do what I want, to create, to … I dunno… to be successful somehow.
I’m not just be a frazzled mom – I want to have another identity.
It’s a cycle of negativity for me and creates unnecessary stress in my life. I know it’s just negative thoughts swirling during a time of particular weakness, but it’s not easy to shut the gremlin voices in my head.
I really need to change things up.
So here I am blogging at 6am instead of just dropping back to sleep. I often write to myself in my head anyway and thought perhaps it will be better to actually write it out for real because at least I can say I did something!
So I don’t think I’m the only one with these feelings of envy and ultimately the mindset of lacking in life. The gremlin voice seems to proclaim that others have it good and they are the lucky ones. Alas, we can’t all be lucky… right?
But wait just a minute… I’m a grown up girl and honestly, I know this funk is just getting the best of me. Successful people work hard to get success… It’s not luck. And there is so much possibility, it just takes time and effort.
So I started thinking about the abundance mentality because I know there are always opportunities, chances for change, improvement, wealth and success – whatever that may be to you – because, heck, we hear about people succeeding all the time. Every single day. Probably every second there is someone shouting eureka in some language… don’t you think? That’s what started this whole post… All the consumption through blogs, social media and videos on the Web and witnessing other people and their wins.
Instead of caving into the anxiety of feeling like a failure, comparing apples to oranges and the unnecessary pressure of it all, I need to think of abundance, possibility and amazing opportunities offered by this day in age with the wonderful Web. I CAN make it happen, too.
I need abundance mentality inspiration and motivation.
It’s about changing my perspective to having an outlook of great possibility. That there is enough for all of us and plenty of opportunity out there. Because my thought is that an inspiring mindset leads to motivation and hopefully the work – which is what really leads to results.
The mindset is crucially important though because we all need the mojo that gets us to actually DO stuff and keep at it.
So I thought of a 3 pillar step-by-step abundance mentality inspiration mantra to beat the scarcity gremlins in my head. Here it goes…
Gratitude
When negativity strikes – I need to quickly switch to thinking about all that I am grateful for. A roof over my head, a supportive husband, healthy kids, an amazing family, the fact that Nutella exists, coffee exists… Really so many things, big and small count, making this a good life. It’s about moving out of negativity into the positive realm of appreciation.
Good
Whatever is stirring up bad thoughts, I need to turn it over and around to find the good side… How can it be good for me personally? Where is the silver lining? Did I learn something? Maybe sometimes it’s about not following xyz person on social media because it doesn’t jive with me or help me at this time. That’s an important realization. No shame. Ultimately, what can I take away and work on to better my own life? Reframe the situation to good.
Greatness
Finally, do something and feel great. If I’ve learned anything in all these years of exploring creativity, it’s that creative action gives me good vibes and usually more mojo. Catalyst! So from negativity I want to move to the greatness of doing something. Even with the responsibilities of a mom with young kids, I can design beautiful cards for my Happy Print Club or just write a blog post like this one. I can still accomplish things and still have my own creative identity.
Maybe after reading about the successes of others I can implement a new biz technique or improve a little part of my online presence. Tweak here or there. Maybe the take away is that itls not something I actually want ir care about in the end. Or maybe it’s just baking feel-good cookies or throwing a load of laundry in to wash, because there is definitely greatness in taking care of my family and showing my love. It’s always a good idea to end with greatness!
I admit that writing this has given me clarity and yes, I did purposefully choose words starting with the letter G. It just worked out and now I can feel clever about it – hah!
From gremlins to gratitude, good and finally greatness. It’s my new mantra for turning envy into something productive.
After re-reading my post I decided to create a printable poster with this mantra to keep abundance and possibility top of mind. Nothing like a motivational printable to make my day! You can download the free printable in your paper size below by right clicking and saving to your computer.
LTieu Gratitude Good Greatness LETTER
LTieu Gratitude Good Greatness A4
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So I’m curious, how do YOU avoid the negativity pitfall and get into an abundance mindset?
Joining in with Pattern Observer’s Book Club meant I was finally able to dive back into reading more this past January. I seem to go in and out of voraciously devouring books – into getting too busy to allow time for reading at all. I’m hoping to replace that rollercoaster habit into a consistent good habit of reading more regularly. I want to document my reading – part accountability and part sharing of the bits that really hit me – so I thought the best is to simply type out the quotes I have highlighted while reading.
Last month we read The Creative Habit by Twyla Tharp and I found it really easy to read and quick to finish. Although many creative junkies might find the topics and concepts familiar, it’s definitely still helpful to dive into the details and examples Twyla provides from her experience as a dance choreographer. Maybe I’m a creative self-help junkie… but I find the friendly reminders, inspirations and motivations of this type really help me. Below are my highlights while reading:
Without learning and preparation you won’t know how to harness the power of that kiss.
Leon Battista Alberti, a fifteenth-centure architectural theorist, said, “Errors accumulate in the sketch and compound in the model.” But better an imperfect dome in Florence than cathedrals in the clouds.
…superstition is nothing more than a ritual repeated religiously. The habit, and the faith invested in it, converts it into an act that provides comfort and strength.
In the words of T.S. Eliot, you’re “distracted from distractions by distractions.”
Alone is a fact, a condition where no one else is around. Lonely is how you feel about that.
The golfer Ben Hogan said, “Every day you don’t practice you’re one day further from being good.”
There’s nothing wrong with fear; the only mistake is to let it stop you in your tracks.
You filter the world through your particular prism.
That’s the power of muscle memory. It gives you a path toward genuine creation through simple recreation.
That’s the true value of the box: It contains your inspirations without confining your creativity.
No matter what system you use, I recommend having a goal and putting it in writing. I read once that people who write down their New Year’s resolutions have a greater change of achieving them than people who don’t. This is the sort of factoid tat is probably apocryphal but, like many urban legends, sounds as though it should be true.
I Guess that’s the real secret to creative preparation. If you’re at a dead end, take a deep breath, stamp your foot, and shout “Begin!” You never know where it will take you.
Scratching can look like borrowing or appropriating, but it’s an essential part of creativity.
The short answer is: everywhere. It’s like asking “Where do you find the air you breathe?”
Ideas take on many forms. There are good ideas and bad ideas. Big ideas and little ideas. A good idea is one that turns you on rather than shuts you off. It keeps generating more ideas and they improve on one another. A bad idea closes doors instead of opening them. It’s confining and restrictive. The line between good and bad ideas is very thin. A bad idea in the hands of the right person can easily be tweaked into a good idea.
As Freud said, “When inspiration does not come to me, I go halfway to meet it.”
To generate ideas, I had to move. It’s the same if you’re a painter: You can’t imagine the work, you can only generate ideas when you put pencil to paper, brush to canvas-when you actually do something physical.
Scratching is where creativity begins. It is the moment where you ideas first take flight and begin to defy gravity. If you try to rein it in, you’ll never know how high you can go.
This, to me, is the most interesting paradox of creativity: In order to be habitually creative, you have to know how to prepare to be creative, but good planning alone won’t make your efforts successful; it’s only after you let go of your plans that you can breathe life into your efforts.
Your creative endeavors can never be thoroughly mapped out ahead of time. You have to allow for the suddenly altered landscape, the change in plan, the accidental spark- and you have to see it as a stroke of luck rather than a disturbance of your perfect scheme. Habitually creative people are, in E. B. White’s phrase, “prepared to be lucky.”
There’s an emotional lie to overplanning; it creates a security blanket that lets you assume you have things under control, that you are further along than you really are, that you’re home free when you haven’t even walked out the door yet.
I know it’s important to be prepared, but at the start of the process this type of perfectionism is more like procrastination. You’ve got to get in there and do.
Remember this the next time you moan about the hand you’re dealt: No matter how limited your resources, they’re enough to get you started.
Obligation is a flimsy base for creativity, way down the list behind passion, courage, instinct, and the desire to do something great.
Art is competitive with yourself, with the past, with the future.
Creativity is an act of defiance. You’re challenging the status quo. You’re questioning accepted truths and principles. You’re asking three universal questions that mock conventional wisdom:
“Why do I have to obey the rules?”
“Why can’t I be different?”
“What can’t I do it my way?”
Questioning what’s gone unquestioned gets the brain humming.
Inexperience erases fear. You do not know what is and is not possible and therefore everything is possible.
Without passion, all the skill in the world won’t lift you above craft. Without skill, all the passion in the world will leave you eager but floundering.
Being blocked is most often a failure of nerve, with only one solution: Do something-anything.
You may not think that doing a verb is practical or productive for anyone but a dancer. I disagree. The chemistry of the body is inseparable from the chemistry of the brain.
The only bad thing about having a good creative day is that it ends, and there’s no guarantee we can repeat it tomorrow.
Knowing when to stop is almost as critical as knowing how to start. How do you know when something is not only the best that you can do but the best that it can be?
In theory, the only perfectly clean room is an empty room.
As Tracy Kidder wrote in The Soul of a New Machine, “Good engineers ship.” In other words, while perfection is a wonderful goal, there comes a point where you have to let your creation out into the world or it isn’t worth a tinkerer’s damn.
You can’t be stoic and strong about everything. Some things in life are just meant to be enjoyed simply because you enjoy them.
Realize that you don’t need elimination, just moderation, so it’s working for you.
Every creative person has to learn to deal with failure, because failure, like death and taxes, is inescapable. If Leonardo and Beethoven and Goethe failed on occasion, what makes you think you’ll be the exception?
…the creative act is editing. You’re editing out all the lame ideas that won’t resonate with the public. It’s not pandering. It’s exercising your judgment.
When you fail in public, you are forcing yourself to learn a whole new set of skills, skills that you have nothing to do with creating and everything to do with surviving.
All I have is the certainty of experience that looking foolish is good for you. It nourishes the spirit. You appreciate this more and more over the years as the need to not look foolish fades with youth. (Remember the centenarian who when asked about the best part of living such a long life replied, “No more peer pressure.”)
A great ending quote, don’t you think? I enjoyed reading The Creative Habit by Twyla Tharp and hope you might be inspired to pick it up as well.